Holiday Blues

Elvis fans are familiar with the song, Blue Christmas.

“I’ll have a blue Christmas without you

I’ll be so blue just thinking about you

Decorations of red on a green Christmas tree

Won’t be the same dear, if you’re not here with me.”

And when those blue snowflakes start falling

And when those blue memories start calling

You’ll be doing all right, with your Christmas of white

But I’ll have a blue, blue, blue Christmas

Elvis is not alone in experiencing sadness on Christmas. Some people may have experienced a death, divorce, abuse, or family trauma. Some may feel down from financial constraints or simply from stress. People with chronic depression find it difficult to feel joy. Mass shootings create a sense of chronic fear. For many, holidays are not happy.

Some churches have responded by hosting a Blue Christmas service. Others call it the Longest Night because it occurs on or near the winter solstice. You are not expected to sing chirpy holiday carols, or wear a smile. You are invited to participate in the warmth of a community as you seek peace and renewal.

According to the Mayo Clinic, when holiday stress is at its peak, it is difficult to stop and regroup. They suggest the following tips for managing holiday stress and depression:

1. Acknowledge your feelings. It is normal to feel sadness and grief. You can’t force yourself to be happy.

2. Reach out to others if you feel lonely. Seek companionship or volunteer your time.

3. Be realistic. The holidays don’t have to be perfect.

4. Set aside conflicts. Not everything has to be fixed immediately.

5. Stick to a budget. You can’t buy happiness.

6. Plan ahead and make time for yourself.

7. Learn to say no. Friends and family may understand if you don’t feel up to celebrating.

8. Stick to healthy habits. You’ll feel better if you exercise, get enough rest, and don’t overindulge on sweets.

9. Take a breather. Take time to clear your mind, slow your breathing and restore inner calm.

10. Seek professional help if your feelings are overwhelming.

May you find comfort and understanding this holiday season.