How you feel about yourself radiates from you like radio waves, sending signals to others about how you want to be treated. People with high self-esteem respect themselves and expect others to treat them well. Those with low self-esteem send signals that they expect low regard. Self-respect in your right to be treated fairly and courteously is central to self-esteem. Without it, you\u2019ll treat yourself badly and let others do the same.<\/p>\n
Our self-appraisal comes from genetics – we are hardwired toward certain dispositions; early childhood experiences from family; school experiences from both teachers and peers; life struggles and failures. Some life events such as divorce, job and economic loss can cause most people to question their worth.<\/p>\n
By the time we are adults, we\u2019re so accustomed to thinking about ourselves in certain ways that we may not recognize how harshly we treat ourselves. Self criticism and negative thinking are learned behaviors that can be changed.<\/p>\n
How is self-esteem built?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2022 Appreciate your unique traits, talents and skills.<\/p>\n \u2022 Live according to your values. People who compromise their values in order to gain wealth, status or power do so at the cost of their self-esteem.<\/p>\n \u2022 We like ourselves more when we feel a part of a group of people whom we love and admire. Their support and acceptance bolsters self-esteem when life\u2019s struggles pull us down.<\/p>\n \u2022 Accomplishing your goals brings pride of achievement that increases self-esteem.<\/p>\n \u2022 Positive self-talk that is encouraging builds self-esteem.<\/p>\n Cognitive therapy is demonstrated to be an effective form of psychotherapy treatment. An excellent self-help book on Cognitive Therapy is The Feeling Good Handbook<\/strong> by David Burns. Or, if you are stuck, therapy can help get you back on your feet. A therapist can help you learn to recognize destructive or negative self-talk and replace it with more realistic and reasonable beliefs.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" How you feel about yourself radiates from you like radio waves, sending signals to others about how you want to be treated. People with high self-esteem respect themselves and expect others to treat them well. Those with low self-esteem send signals that they expect low regard. Self-respect in your right to be treated fairly and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-794","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"acf":[],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/794","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=794"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/794\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=794"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=794"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/interactionstherapycenter.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=794"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}