Loneliness

Although loneliness is often a temporary condition as a consequence of a disruption in relationships, it can be felt even when surrounded by other people. People marry in order to have a life companion. But in some cases, even marriage can be a lonely experience. Among couples who divorce, 80% say that they divorced because of a growing distance in the relationship. A part of feeling lonely is perceiving rejection, and that is the most damaging part.

Loneliness is different from just being alone. Solitude can be a welcome experience from too much social interaction. Solitude can have positive effects such as rest and improved mood and concentration. But what makes a person lonely is the fact that they want more social interactions than what is available.

Chronic loneliness can be a serious, life-threatening health condition. It increases the risk of cancer, stroke and cardiovascular disease as well as high blood pressure, high cholesterol and obesity. It is also linked with depression, alcoholism, and is a risk factor for suicide.

One study found that 20% of the US population feels lonely. Another study found that 12% of Americans have no one with whom to spend time or to discuss important matters. Other research indicates that these figures are increasing over time from factors such as relocation and smaller household size. Senior citizens often feel lonely as they lose the ability to drive and therefore have difficulty maintaining social connections.

If you are lonely, remind yourself that you are not alone. It is a human experience that we all share from time to time. As with all emotions, it is a signal that something needs to change. Use this information to make efforts to improve your relationships to be emotionally close, supportive and engaging.

If you know of others who may be lonely, reach out to them. Caring for others, including pets, can help alleviate loneliness.

What we all want, is not to be alone, to feel accepted, to be loved and supported by a close circle of valued people.